Hello all! - the joys of infertility

We have been struggling for 8 years to start a family. We have experienced all the heartache, embarrassment, and annoying/offensive questions and comments that comes with it:

“Just relax, it’ll happen!”
“Why don’t you JUST adopt?!"
“You can have my kids!"
“Quit stressing, everything will work out when it’s SUPPOSED to!”
“It took us a whole four months to get pregnant, we know EXACTLY how you feel!”
“Maybe if you just lost some more weight you could get pregnant?”
“Well which one of you is the PROBLEM?”
 And our all-time favorite, make you want to punch someone in the throat comment...“I only WISH I had your problem, my kids drive me nuts!”

And those are just a few of the gems we have heard over the years...

Some people don't think! A quick rant:
I’m sure all of you fellow infertile couples have had to endure this also, it just comes with the territory. Plain and simple. Nothing you can do about it. Some just don't have a working filter for stupid comments. Most mean well, but there are always those really special few that for some reason just can't wait to get their snotty little two cents put in. We have wanted to slap numerous people over the years. Only time makes it not sting as bad. Time really does help heal most wounds. It was so hard though in the early years of infertility to watch friends and family be able to start their new families like it’s nothing, and even harder to watch those blessed with the ability to have kids that choose to NOT be active or loving parents. And, there is always that one person out there too that just can't wait to rattle off a list to you of all the newly pregnant families that they know of. We know, we know! We're already aware that everyone BUT US is having a baby, ha ha. Thanks though. Listening to pregnant women complain made us see red! Sometimes still does. Facebook can be a wonderful and not so wonderful thing. We still have lost friends along the way though, and some people still view us as completely incompetent when it comes to any conversations regarding kids. We don't get baby shower invites like we used to, and some pregnant women avoid us like we're the plague. They don't want to make us feel bad I'm sure, but they don't realize that their avoid you like you're a fast spreading disease behavior is actually much more hurtful than actually getting a baby shower invite! And being LDS somehow makes it worse, doesn’t it fellow Mormon infertile-ites?? Everyone is always wondering when you’re going to have a bunch of kids just like everyone else, because that’s what Mormons usually do.

Why us?!:
We have often asked our Heavenly Father what on earth we did to deserve this heart breaking trial, and have only just now after many LONG and VERY TRYING years have received an answer to our suffering. For those currently struggling, hang in there! Though times may seem dark, your day WILL come! Whether it be adoption, a miracle pregnancy, successful IVF or IUI, embryo donation, donor egg, donor sperm, surrogacy, or something else...something great will happen for you! Trust in the Lord. Stay active in your churches, pay tithing, serve others, and pray daily. Don't forget to do things for YOURSELF as well! Something as simple as getting your hair done, walking the dog, painting your toes, or not checking your Facebook for awhile, can make or break your days. The embryos that this wonderful anonymous donating couple is so selflessly giving to us, IS OUR PATH. These are our babies! Even if it for some reason doesn't work out the first time around, this is still the great opportunity we have been waiting for all these years! The passing of time, much prayer, and this miracle have gotten us back to feeling human again. We are finally hopeful that 2015 is OUR YEAR and will bring us great things!